2022.01.29 00:25 Substantial-Piano548 I (27yo F) cannot get through to my Bf (27yo M) about his behavior
My boyfriend and I have been together 7 years and had a baby a year and a half ago. When we met we were 19 or 20 years old, partying, he resisted to commit, blacked out a lot, etc etc. it was aMESS, and things have gotten so much better and we’ve both grown from it. We have a lot of love and have had a lot of good times.
The backstory— I had an amazing salary at my parent’s company at 20 years old when we met and my own apartment. I essentially gave that up because my employer (Dad) is unstable, abusive, insulted my Bf sometime. It was bound to happen and I needed to explore other things. This all occurred when my bf and I had began living together and I became a preschool teacher helper. Since then I’ve switch schools a few times but have been working at preschools. I know it’s not my long term career but I like it and love kids. Now I’m 27, took pregnancy and the first year and a half off to care for my baby… like we planned together. Being a full time mom is HARD, non stop, a lot of work, and I think I’m doing a great job.
The issue is that throughout all of this, my boyfriend will continue to put me down when he’s mad, no matter what job I had. When I was working with my family and making tons of $$ I “had a fake job” or “spoiled.” When I was working part time at preschools trying to restart my life and he’s insisting on paying our bills I’m a “leech who has never had a job.” When I’m throwing up every single day of my pregnancy very sick and tired, I’m “not doing anything.” And now in the last few months I got fed up and landed a new part time job at a preschool my baby can attend while being a full time mom and caregiver. I’m buying everything for the baby, furnished our entire house so it’s suitable for a baby, don’t ask him for any money for myself. But still, when he’s mad I’m a “piece of shit” “sit on my ass all day” “don’t contribute” “have never had a job”. My life is non stop errands, baby, work, cleaning, cooking, and still dealing with the belittling comments from him. All I do is contribute and care for everyone and keep this house and family together. I’m frustrated because it seems like I try to have direct communication and we will plan together me staying home and him paying bills, then he will hold it against me and put me down so often.
Now that there is baby involved I am beginning to see clearly that it’s a problem the way he treats me and I’ve been putting my foot down. He doesn’t stop saying these cruel things and rarely apologizes. He thinks that paying bills and being a Dad is an excuse to speak to me in this way. I grew up with a Narcissist father so I’m recovering from that and I’m really worried about what I’ve gotten myself into. Im trying my absolute best as a girlfriend, mom, and with my part time job but it seems like nothing is good enough. I grew up with a lot of gaslighting and abuse from my parent growing up so sometimes I don’t trust my own judgement and didn’t speak up for myself in the past.
I need some advice and opinions. Is it valid for me to be firm with him about getting help? and committing to treating me better and to stop the verbal abuse? Is my Bf having narcissistic behavior? He seems motivated by sex and touching me but not interested in my emotions or that I’m in pain. He’s bailed out of every couples counseling appointment we have made over the last 7 years.
I’m very uncomfortable with my almost 2 year old hearing the insults and chaos any longer. I want her to have a healthy and happy life. Him & I have been in a 2 week long back and forth about it, because I’m not letting up and don’t think I deserve to be spoken down to. He has half apologized a few times and called me bad things the very next day. I feel like once a partner crosses these boundaries and says these things to me, things aren’t the same and I’m not happy. He doesn’t think he has anything to change or care that I’m really hurting and beaten down by him. I can’t get through to him.
Any advice or experience with a situation like this is appreciated.
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2022.01.29 00:25 LovingSurvivalist A plead for guidance and advice from an addict in recovery...
I am going in to a halfway house for 90 days in North Shore near walkimg bridge in a couple of days. I have to find a job I can walk to, I have no money and no car. Im going to struggle even being able to eat. I dont know how to navigate with buses and have been terrified of the city my whole life. I will have to learn how to make it to N.A. meetings whilst holding a job of which Im here to ask whats hiring close to walking bridge. This will be one of the hardest tests of my life, its good being clean but going from driving my whole life to walking in winter broke looking for work, wow. Any other people in recovery close by feel free to message me. But yeah any tips or ideas please send them my way. 90 days of doing this right and Ill have an apartment for the first time in my life so Im definitely dedicated. Thank you.
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2022.01.29 00:25 ratttttty Oculus Accounts caused some issues
I haven’t used my Oculus Quest since April 2020. I spent the entire day (no lie) troubleshooting black screens, 3 dots, etc and finally pulled through enough to factory reset.
Upon logging in the app, I merged my facebook account with my Oculus account. I was under the impression games would transfer, but no. Finally, it turned out they didn’t merge and was luckily able to get access back into my Oculus account where all my original games were at.
Do any of you guys primarily use your Oculus accounts, and not the facebook one? It said in 2023, they will no longer offer support for Oculus accounts. Also said some new features wouldn’t be provided to Oculus accounts. Problem is I don’t know how to get all my current games over to facebook account.
Anyone find themselves in this predicament?
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Unless you use a guide there’s no way you will have enough Jiggies for the extra health at the end; unless you get that extra health there’s no way without dozens of hours of practice or without save-states that you’re going to get through the final phase with those stone-age camera-controls and aiming and no way to have more than ten gold feathers. Therefore it’s bs: no major publication on a console, targeted at the majority of its instal-base, should be too difficult or obscure for the vast majority of those players to finish without being explicitly TOLD the solutions. I’m really disappointed because otherwise the game is very good; it’s not the worst boss-fight I’ve ever played, given that the guided or save-state option is so painless compared with comparable bosses in other games—reading a guide for jiggy solutions for the extra health is very easy compared to reading a guide telling me I need to grind for ten hours to level-up, or to find out that the INTENDED solution is that you actually need to play it standing on your head while singing the Okey-Kokey having already collected all collectibles in the game in reverse order beforehand.
Comparing DK64 and this continually during the playthrough they have been about neck-and-neck in my estimation—each getting its worth from different qualities—but this final boss-fight has pulled BJ down a few points certainly.
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